As I said in my last post, we need to be prepared to accept and deal with the unavoidable problems that we will encounter in our families. The best way to be prepared is to be able to communicate with your spouse about those issues. I feel like the most important step in conflict resolution is to identify the problem. Identifying the problem allows you to have a more focused argument; without digging out past issues that have been buried long ago. I believe that every couple is going to argue and disagree in many topics; so arguments are unavoidable... There is a more celestial way to fix these problems though: COUNSELING TOGETHER!
If you are constantly talking about issues that are possible sources of stress in your relationship you are will avoid many unnecessary "fights". The leaders of the Church, those whom we sustain as Prophets, have a celestial way of counseling together about the matters of the Church that can be a template to be used for our marriages.
First, before counseling, take some time to express appreciation and love for one another (remember that you are not doing this when you are heated up and ready to fight; rather counseling should take place in a regular basis). Remember also that the leaders of the Church meet at the Temple (a sacred place), every Thursday. Your home is the closest that a place can get to a Temple, so keep it that way! Select a time every week and have an agenda ready of the things you want to discuss. Start the conversation with a prayer that will invite the Spirit. When discussing, it is important to be as open as possible and be willing to search for the will of the Lord. End the meeting with a prayer and have some refreshments together... Go and do likewise!
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